Glad of the help

I was upset that Steven and I were no more and the life we had planned together living the dream in Bulgaria was over.

I went through the motions. I felt not just loss of a relationship but also loss of the dream with the happy ending that I was sure was going to be.

I had my beautiful home but now it was full of bad memories and broken dreams. It had somehow lost its magic!

I was looking forward to the future and now that path had washed away and I had no choice or say in that! Now I had to rethink my future but with little motivation and a lot of resentment that I had been put in the position of having to replan the future that I thought was secure.

I was grieving the loss of a seven year relationship and the loss of my dreams, plans and future. I wanted it all to go back to normal but I knew that wasnt possible.

I had to move forward but I didnt want to!

Valeri and Georgi were a god send at this time. It was good to have company and they were positive and supportive and would make sure I would get through it. I would cry and they would make me feel better.

Valeri was a great cook and made breakfast, lunch and dinner every day. He was also taking care of the cleaning, shopping, chopping wood and lighting the fires and generally taking care of me.

He and Georgi were arguing quite a bit but I never really got the gist of it as they would bicker in Bulgarian. One or the other would end up walking out but it would be fine the next day.

Valeri was there more than Georgi. Although at first he didnt stay overnight, he would sometimes turn up in the middle of the night or the early hours and put more wood on the fires and I got used to him appearing at these unusal times and was not particularly worried about waking up to find him in my room or waking to find a little gift next to me in the morning if I hadnt heard him come in.

He made me smile as he was quite eccentric and did not conform. After the hurt I had been through, it was good for my self esteem to have a young handsome man wanting to do everything he could to make me happy and who wanted nothing in return.

He was kind, caring, considerate and gentle but also strong and a real man.
He made me feel safe.
He made me laugh and he made me feel good about myself.

We were spending more and more time together and became good friends.

Valeri seemed to have alot of similar interests to me.
In fact he showed interest in my books, my music, my photography, my culture and had a love of nature and enjoyed the outside life as I did..

He would take me to different places to see the views or watch the sun rise or set and even to the beach at night when the moon was full.

He also was very knowledgeable about skin and hair care and would make potions for me from the local natural resources which are plentiful in Bulgaria if you know where to look.

He would take me to the mountains for natural spring water, pick fruit and nuts and flowers for me. Bring wine made locally and would cook from local organic produce..

He was pretty much the most perfect man on the planet by any girls standards..

I was extremely happy to have him as my friend as he restored my faith in men!

Valeri 




I was however by no means interested in having another relationship no matter how perfect he seemed.

I was drained emotionally and not only did I have nothing left to give, I was feeling bitter and cynical about relationships full stop, especially with a younger man and wanted to avoid them like the plague.

I certainly had no intention of starting something that would ultimately be destined to fail due to my mindset and his age!

Valeri was very handsome and also very young so I discouraged his ideas of our friendship becoming a romantic relationship when he suggested it.

I doubted his alleged feelings for me, dismissing them as nothing more than a crush which was due to me being the first female who he had developed a close friendship with which was making him confused about those feelings he felt being something more... I had experienced this in the past with other male friends and once the infatuation was over, it always ended up with a friendship still intact!

Of course he disagreed but I thought in time he would come to realise that what he felt was nothing more than infatuation which would not last and we could get past that and still be good friends..

I was glad of the help and glad of the company and I felt safer in my home with him there. It was also a huge house and so it was no problem having him there and he enjoyed being there! He said that it made him feel better and not so paranoid so he could relax more.. I have a brother who is a paranoid schizophrenic and I had suspected that Valeri was suffering with the same illness so I was sympathetic towards his needs and happy to help him feel better and have a safe place to relax!


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I am an English lady who lived in Bulgaria for 18 months which sadly did not turn out as I had hoped. I was not new to Bulgaria'...